Hi THampton, welcome here! It was a great surprise for your wife to bring home Charlie to you- what a lady! :laugh: As the others have already mentioned, you must take things slow, at Charlie's pace and win his trust. Eventually he may lower his head for you to scratch it. My 2 1/2 year old Timneh doesn't like a lot of cuddling or touching but usually right before bed time after his tummy is full, he likes his head scratched and preened for a short period of time. You'll figure out Charlie's preferences soon enough but don't force him to accept your handling- this can make things worse if he loses his trust of you. Good luck!