I dont know about male greys, I have never had one, but ecodweeb,and Char, My girl sounds just like yours, Very shy, and skittish, She doesnt talk yet, but she is only about 9 months old. She trusts me, and is EXTREMELLY lovey dovey, But if I am wearing something she has never seen before, She doesnt trust me anymore, and she is afraid, at least for about 30 min's, Then she realizes it is still "mommy" under there, lol, So its all good
She is a real sweetheart