Zooky, You know how I feel, I shared that with you last night. I meant every word of it. You are a special angel and were meant to rescue Mende and give her the best life possible. I know with all my heart you are doing that. Bless you, and may this situation turn around for you.
Remember, don't feel sorry for her, she knows no other way, this is normal for her, and it's because of you that she has been able to experience life. You are a very special person, one which we should all learn from.