I have to reinforce the instructions to- NEVER ALLOW A BIRD TO BE HIT EVER! Please slow down and let her get used to sharing your home before expecting her to step up willingly onto the hand of what are to her strangers who have not yet gained her trust. Hitting her will make her more fearful, more nervous and never learn to trust. Greys are intelligent and have surprisingly long memories. You are doing a good job with the veggies and fruits but the milk and salty snack foods are not good. Greys as many other Parrots are prone to fatty liver disease and enlarged hearts so keep the foods as healthy as you can no salt sugar or fried foods, ( & possibly a new roommate). Now after the lecture I want to welcome you to the forum and hope we can guide you towards a happy healthy relationship with your new Grey friend. You will find lots of information if you read through the site and room to share your photos as well. Again Welcome!