Your post really brought back memories! Biscotti started his terrible two's at about the age Gracie is. It was really a rude awakening for me, Biscotti had always been a sweet cuddle bug--until then. He is now 3 1/2 & most of the "terrible", lol, stuff has past but he is no longer a cuddler & minimal scritches is all the actual contact he cares for. Since Gracie has never been a cuddle bird, she is probably going to try & show her independence in other ways. Biscotti can still be a total turd at times, such is the nature of greys, & he definitely has a sense of humor like you are describing with Gracie! Before he does something he knows he shouldn't he says "that's a bad bird" in this real calm voice, then he goes ahead & does it. and usually laughs! Aren't they the most wonderful, exasperating creatures you have ever know?