Laurie gave us a tip in the Did You Know thread about looking at a grey sideways with eyes slightly closed. And it really works!
Oisin is my husbands bird and he hates me! He will step up when he wants to get out of the cage, but I have terrible trouble getting him back. Yesterday I put him on his perch and tried Lauries idea and I could stroke him for a while. This evening I put him on my lap and I cuddled, stroked, scratched and petted him for about 2 hours. When it came time to put him back to bed he stepped up nicely, and stepped down onto his perch with no fuss.
I still have all my fingers too... pretty amazing! Laurie you are a genius! I really hope this new improved Oisin is still here tomorrow