I am sure there are others far better to respond to this as well. I have also heard ALL of these things too. But, I am not letting that stop me from proceeding with getting my baby. Is he bonded with me right now? Yeah Id like to think so, will it change? it could, I hope not .. but onces he's in his forever home, Im sure lots of things will change. that wont stop me from loving him still and working with him and stuff. I live closer to 1.5 hours from the parrot store and have been blowing atleast a tank of gas each weekend just to go visit but I feel SO strongly about it! Your efforts you spend w/the baby will NOT be lost!