JeffNok-Keep the faith!! I'm sure things will settle down between you two and all will be well. My Chickie sounds a lot like Gracie-she is very independent and quite happy spending hours on her tree playing while we are doing things in the house. She sometimes gives me a little grumble when she doesn't really want to step up, but if I ask again she will ususally agree. I totally understand how you feel-it's so hard because you just want to do right for your baby, and when you think you might have just done the wrong thing it's so upsetting. Everyone else gave you some excellent advice, and I'm sure the dust will settle. It's hard for me to give advice, as we are at the same birdie knowledge level, but I can give you my support as I totally understand how you feel.