Well, Chris it sounds like you care about your bird a lot! That's awesome...
I really like LovieChick's advice.
My experience with Klaus (I've had him since July 4th) has taught me that patience is a must. These birds cannot be rushed into anything.
I had to chuckle to myself when I read the title to the post (Stepping Up Chaos). Here's what Klaus thinks of everyone in the house: I'm "top dog" - he adores me and I can pretty much touch him and pick him up whenever I want. My husband and son are not tolerated well, and will very likley be bitten if they try to screw with him. My brother in law, Eric, (who is staying with us temporarily) is somewhat tolerated. He will go to Eric, but only with a fair amount of chaos. Lots of fussing but not a lot of bites like he does with my husband and son. Best of luck to you and Harriet (love the name by the way)...