Abula, you have gotten a lot of great advice from our caring and experienced members and I know if you apply this advice things will become much easier on you, your grey and especially the household. Cleaning up after our greys is a chore but if you do it when it happens i.e., when Abula poops or throws his food on the floor, immediately clean it up so Mom doesn't have to, she may lighten up on the deadline if she sees you are really trying. Karma to you for caring so much about Abula that you want to make his life and your household much happier.