I re-homed Eclectus almost 3 months ago, who is over 10 years old. when I first got Sully he trembled all the time. He no longer does in my presence. He is leary of a lot of things and pins his eyes at me if he is no liking what I am doing. I can get him to step up from his cage, but only if he wants to. He always comes out of his cage if he wants me to step him up. Go at your grey's pace, be patient, you must first gain trust with your fid don't push too hard. Love and patience will get you the forever companion you want.