What a horribly painful thing someone told you to do. That's like ripping fingernails off a human in my opinion! OUCH! :angry:
As Judy has said, you have a long road ahead of you, IF your bird decides to trust you. I wish you the best of luck, keep loving it, talk sweetly ALL the time to it, give treats, and have someone else do the day to day care. You shouldn't stick your hand in the cage until he trust you, or he never will. Again, this is MY opinion. :dry: