Since we got the amazon, it has been no problem putting our grey, Brutus, to bed. He used to be difficult, but since he has seen Pancho, the amazon, go to bed easily, Brutus is easy. In fact, now he actually tells me it is time, "Wanna go to bed." I am not sure how to fix your problem, except that CLB said it nicely, do "step-ups" at different times than bedtime. I think that will get him used to stepping up and then put him in his cage, too, at that time. Try to make it a pattern and an automatic response.
Also, you can widen your bird's circle of loved ones. Even though i am Brutus' "favorite" my husband can handle him, carry him, take him to his office, etc. I think it is in your bird's best interest to give him more people to love on him, rather than just one. It is nice being "the chosen one" but it does limit any affection your bird receives to ONLY you. It doesn't have to be that way. It is kind of a relief to me, at times, that not all of that responsibility is mine, that other people can contribute to my grey's human experience. I think the more people you can get your grey comfortable with the better. Certainly, they won't be on the same terms as you, the favorite, but any positive human interaction is a definite plus for your bird.