judygram

What a sweetheart and the floodgates are open now so enjoy.

Greys tend to pick a favorite in the family and its not necessarily the one who initially wanted her but all is not lost. You are her favorite but a good relationship can be built if your wife and kids realize this is a wild animal and it takes time to build trust and it can't be rushed. They are probably wanting to rush her so have them back off a bit and offer her treats and let her decide when she is ready for them to be closer. I don't know what you mean when you say they want to play with her but she is not a toy, if she doesn't want handled then you have to respect her wishes, the last thing you want to do is force themselves on her, this will take time and lots of patience but the rewards will be worth it. Greys tend to be nervous and do not like change, they are very aware of their surroundings and on the lookout for what they deem to be predators and she is showing her displeasure by puffing up and biting, she is trying to tell you she is not ready so slow down a bit and see what happens. Jessy can still be a family pet but you will have to work to make it happen and that takes time.

Hello Kev and welcome to our family. Most of us work full time, I know I do and I still have quality time with my grey when I get home from work, I leave a radio on for background noise and I have two other parrots that are in the same room with her so they are company for each other. I am glad you are doing your research before plunging in and you will learn a lot from the members here on this forum so just ask those questions you have and we will do our best to give you some answers and help you in any way we can.

He/she is so precious at this age, so cute and cuddly, makes me want to just grab him/her up and give a good squeeze, your baby is almost fully feathered and yes they wait until they are before putting them into a cage, they need to be able to perch a little also. I guess it won't be too much longer before its time for him/her to come home and I can imagine your enthusiasm is growing by the minute.

Thanks for that great idea, will have to give it a try.

I dare say that Gilbert couldn't have made this trip earlier on in the relationship and come away unscathed, it happened at just the right time, sorry about the reason but these things happen and Gilbert has come thru with flying colors, he really has come a long way from when you first met him and who would have believed he would be this way now, I am in awe of you Dee for you have been exactly what Gilbert needed and obviously he needed you at that point in time. I look forward to the further adventures of Gilbert and his family for we have missed the updates we were getting on a regular basis.

I am so sorry for your loss but at least you got to spend some quality time with him before he passed away, be grateful of that as many of us do not have that opportunity but as you well know time heals all wounds and he is in a better place now. On the other hand we are so glad to have you back, you have been missed more than you know but you have to do what you have to do so here is to having you back in our daily presence Dee, welcome home.

Greys seem to have the uncanny ability to know when they are being filmed which makes it hard for us to catch them doing what we are telling everyone they do, they don't believe us, wonder why!

Bongo is just finding his voice, sometimes it takes lots of practice to perfect it but now the floodgates have opened and you should be hearing lots more, hopefully you will be there for the next utterance.

Hello Marguerite and welcome to our family. Congrats on getting the two greys you formally owned back again and I sincerely hope this will be their final and forever home. Maybe it was just meant for you to have them since circumstances worked out the way they did. That's wonderful that they both get along with one another and share the same cage but I would advise providing a separate cage for each as there may come a time when one may want a cage to themselves, most greys are particular about their cage and it is their safety zone so even if they use just one cage most of the time there will be that option if needed, better to have and not need it than need it and not have it. I look forward to seeing some pictures of these two greys and what are their names and do you know the sexes?

Of course, shoulders are the best for perching and Escher knows this, thanks for sharing the pictures with us.

Gotta love those greys who still allow snuggles, thanks for sharing them with us.

Hello Rick and welcome to our family. You and Cosmo were made for each other and it warms my heart to know you two get along so well right from the start. And kudos for giving Sylvester a new lease on life, going on 13 years and hopefully many more to come. I love that picture in your avatar, that seems to be a favorite of many of our greys at times and we would love to see more of Cosmo, many of us use photobucket for hosting pictures and videos to share on the site, why not check them out.

It could have been any number of things but the only way to know for sure would be having a necropsy performed and that has to happen soon after death so it is too late now but it had nothing to do with anything you did or didn't do. I am glad you are keeping yourself open to the possibility of owning another grey, maybe you will find a rescue or rehome.

Karen, I guess you try not to displease Timber if you can for who wants to hear that, wonder who taught him that one.

Hello Calvin and welcome to our family. You may have hit on the reason for the change in Lolita especially if you didn't like the roommate either, greys can pick up on emotions and she may have felt the same way. It sounds like you two are on the road to a better relationship which is great. We love pictures here so if you have some of Lolita you would share with us we would love to see them.

You are correct in that assumption, even if they would happen to get along it is always best to have separate cages for each of your birds as they like to have a space they can call their own, their safety zone.

You are doing exactly what you need to do to gain Sukei's trust, it does take time and lots of patience but it has to go his timeframe, I can just imagine what you might be able to do if you keep it up, small steps to an eventual huge reward, thanks for the update.

Another reason to just get one grey for now is that two at the same time may bond with each other and not with you, if you want your grey to be a companion and bond with you then just get one right now as you can always get another later on. Those of us who have just one grey may either have other parrots in separate cages or leave a radio or tv on for company when we aren't at home.

I enjoyed your long post as it tells us how Escher is doing which is good, sounds like a typical grey.

Hello Deb and welcome to our family. This would be your first grey and they are not like other birds especially the smaller ones. Lots of us work full time so we aren't home all day but we do have our greys out as soon as we come home, lots of time out of cage is important but the quality of time is important also. Some of us take our greys or other birds with us at times, not sure about what types of places you might be allowed to bring a bird into but just ask, they do like being with us and its a good idea to keep them accustomed to a carrier for vet visits. Many members here have other animals in their house including dogs, cats and such but supervision is required when the bird is out of cage and the others are around for it only takes a second for something to happen. Small children need to be kept at a distance until they learn how to behave around them but its up to you to teach them proper behavior around greys, no sticking fingers in cages and so forth, greys usually don't like being around small children because they are loud and quick moving, it makes them nervous. Greys do have a dander but many people use air purifiers and have no problems but greys should be bathed regularly. You can put your husband at ease about the noise as greys are some of the quietest of the parrots, they do have several times a day that they are more vocal but they tend to not be screamers. Greys make excellent companions, they may not want to be with you every minute of the day but they like being with the flock, your family as the flock, he/she may follow you around the house as you do your daily chores and want to "help" you with it too. Hope this has helped you some and others may chime in later with more suggestions for you.

Hello Mom2Mny and welcome to our family. Congrats on your new grey baby to come and you have come to the right place looking for advice so if you have questions feel free to ask and we will help you in any way we can.

When you go to the vet have him scan him for a possible ID chip, some owners microchip their birds so if they are lost they can be identified by that chip. I know you are excited about having this grey but you must exhaust all possibilities of finding his owner for they must be devastated by his loss.

What a precious little baby grey, I know you are getting anxious to bring her home.

I am sure Ollie is the best bird along with Misty but then all our greys are the best birds.