Hey Carol, if your breeder is like mine, a person who really loves her greys and all her babies, that person will know the personality of each baby. So when you go to choose one, ask your breeder about the personality of each baby available for you to choose from and go from there. My Ana Grey chose me, she was the first to come to me and she came back to me after I had handled the other three. Everyone there agreed she wanted to come home with me. She is a lovely, cuddly little lady. We are bonded. She was DNA tested to be a female after I got her home.