BoBo does not like her! :(

[Big_Squishy]

BoBo 5 months old hatched 2 feb 2008. has a blooming personality. he has already spoken a couple words a couple times. He will step up and go down with no problems. <----- at least for me. My better half does not seem to have the luck I do with him. BoBo actually bites her and will only let her pet his back. He will allow her to pick him up but only after making her stand then and give the command repeatedly. Amanda ( My Better half) is getting down about it and is loosing her desire to handle BoBo. I do not want this!!!! I plan to be with the both of them until I pass on ( Please let that be a long time!) lol.

 

I have explained to Amanda that she can not show signs of fear and explained to her about "earthquaking" when BoBo tries to bite her. She does it but I know there has to be other thing I/we can do to help their bond grow, even if it is not as strong as a bond as BoBo and I have. Please help me train BoBo and Amanda to get along!

 

JC

[judygram]

Sorry JC for the problems with Bobo but a lot of greys will choose a favorite person and he has already chosen you but she can still have a relationship with him, just not like yours.

 

She needs to be the one to give him the treats and maybe when she does handle him you can go to another room so he cannot see you, he may take to her better if his favorite person is not in the room with him.

 

She does need to show no fear or he will pick up on that and react to it, he probably already has and maybe if you can take him to another room in the house for her to work with him, somewhere where he feels less secure, he will be more willing to cooperate with her.

 

These are just a few suggestions and some of the other members will have some better ones.:huh:

[Toni]

Yes its true they do usually have a fav person.I'm in same dilemma except Alcazar prefers my boyfriend and he doesnt even belong to my boyfriend. However Alcazar will only try to bite me when I go to put him back in his cage when I grab for him It can also be because even w/ a chair Alcazar's perch is higher than me so I feel he's trying to show me he's the dominating one in the flock.When my boyfriend isnt in the room then thats when Alcazar will cuddle with me. Have her try to have place a perch up to him and bring him out on that. Have her talk to him.Like Judy says let her give him treats.

[Jane08]

I can understand how it would get her down, as I bet she is thinking why doesn't he like me.

 

We had the exact same problem with both of ours. Our male hated my boyfriend and wouldn't even be in the same room with him and would bite him. I backed off and let my boyfriend do everything for him, feed him (we still hand feed ours with formula to help create the bond), treats, helping him out of the cage, cleaning the cage. It took ages but worked and now they are the best of friends.

 

Now we have a female grey and she loves my boyfriend and hates me. I just give her time and don't even try to touch her, just talk to her. I also train her with step up so she gets used to being on me. I use treats to train her. I only train her when she is receptive and I read her body language so I don't interact with her when it looks like she will bite. She has bitten me and I just tell her no and put her down. I also randomly give her treats and tell her how good she is. I also play with her favourite toys where she can see me and occassionally she will come down to interact.

 

Good luck, it will just take time and patience.