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It is not a dumb question at all! A domesticated animal species is genetically wired to coexist with man. I wrote about dogs so I will stay with that domesticated species for the purpose of discussion. Dogs became domesticated early in man’s history, probably through some form of partnership between the two species that was mutually beneficial to both like hunting. Today we have hundreds of dog breeds, all shaped by the actions of man. Some species guard our flocks, others our homes, some breeds have been breed to hunt, others to fight. All the different shapes, sizes, colors, and behaviors of the different dog breeds came from one source. Genetically speaking there is little difference between the Jack Russell Terrier from the TV show Frazier and my English Mastiff. Dogs are a thoroughly domesticated animal. A parrot is another story. Parrots are still wild, they have not be kept by humans long enough to substantially modify there behavior. They do not have that genetic wiring which makes them need us. That makes them somewhat different.

HE will absolutely come around! Believe it. What you have there is one of the most intelligent animals that have ever crawled over the surface the Earth. However, remember YOU are a member of the MOST intelligent animals that has crawled the Earth. It all depends on YOU! The relationship you have with your Grey will evolve or devolve depending on your resolve. Be calm, patient and persistent and you’re going to have a great friend there. Sounds like you have a winner, hang in there!

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost Charlie last year. He was around 40 years and a great friend. We grew up together...a lot of life experience. I have felt what you have felt... peace.

The thing to remember with parrots is that they are NOT domesticated. Dogs are domesticated. I live with an English Mastiff and while she weighs almost 200 lbs, she is completely domesticated; a five-year old human can crawl all over her. For thousands of years her line has been partnered with man. They hunted with early man and became tribe members long before the first words where written. Parrots are another story. At best, we are looking at hundreds of years, and never has a partnership of survival been forged between man and bird. Parrots are wild animals. Let me say that again…PARROTS ARE WILD ANIMALS. That’s right, the little green fellow you see in your corner pet store is no more a domesticated animal then the average lion or tiger. I don’t think most people realize that when they buy Polly. A parrot is never going to become a pet. Always remember a parrot is wild, they are exotic animals. The best you can hope for is that they become a friend or companion but you will never domesticate them. You will never turn them into pets. That fact breaks many hearts. Once some people realize that fact it is too late. The bird they bought is going to spend years in isolation or go from home to home until they become so neurotic and antisocial they end up dead or worse…When you take on an exotic animal you take on a lot of responsibility. The weight of these guys can be measured in grams but the bite pressure is measured in thousands of pounds. They can disfigure you seconds. If that scares you, don’t buy a parrot. Scary stuff… I love parrots, I loved Charlie and while he was never a pet, he was a great friend. I get frustrated sometimes because I don’t think first time parrot buyers are given enough information to make an informed decision. In my opinion, buying an African Grey is an obligation that should be taken no less lightly then having a child. It is that serious…. The African Grey is intelligent enough to learn your language and communicate with you. While it is a small creature its intelligence is that of a human child, an Einstein compared to your dog or cat. Make them a friend and the rewards are great. Sorry if I came across to preachy or strong…I think parrots are great I just want people to think about the commitment BEFORE they buy.

Hi, let me first say that I am brand new to this forum. In fact, this is my very first post. With that said, I might also add that I have lived with a CAG since I was nine years old. Last year my friend died, I will be 41 next year. He was 7-10 years old when I first got him and not very well socialized, if you look hard I still have some scars to prove it. It was over a year before I could touch his head. It took a long time for us to become friends. If I where you I would not take on an unsocialized Grey. I think only experienced bird people should attempt that. You will in all likelihood end up with a sad isolated Grey that ultimately you give up to a parrot rescue organization or worse give up to some other inexperienced bird person or breeder. Bottom-line DO NOT GET A WILD GREY there are to many good breeders of African Greys there is no reason not to get a well-socialized baby. Second, Greys are great, it does not matter if it is a TAG or a CAG, both are equal in intelligence. However, it is VITAL that they are socialized at an early age and continue to be socialized throughout their long life. I know folks don’t like to hear it but African Greys tend to be one-person birds. You can buck the trend but only with a lot of socialization. With that said, I have four children. All of my kids grew up around my CAG, and Charlie did fine around them, but it took a lot of time. Even though he was not a bitter by the time he met them, he would mouth their hands and figures away. Considering your two year old, you have to remember the bite pressure an adult CAG can administer will remove her index finger in seconds, or leave her scars she will have to live with for the rest of her life. I think it’s important to think about that before you bring an unsocialized Grey into your home with your children. The CAGs and TAGs are equal in intelligence, and character. Both are great birds. They as all wild animals should be treated with respect. Getting a Grey, or any parrot for that matter, is not like getting a dog or cat. Parrots are NOT DOMESTICATED…they are wild animals. It takes a lot of time and attention to make them GREAT friends….but they will never be pets. :cheer: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: