Why do people want to cuddle parrots? I don't think a parrot,and in particular an African Grey parrot, is an animal that really likes to be cuddled. In the wild, an African Grey is only preened by its partner. We humans often prefer to buy our Greys as young as possible, so that they get used to be cuddled. But why should we do so? Do we really want a partner relationship with our bird? Or do we want a bird that doesn't know how to really behave lika an African Grey should do?
In other species of parrots, especially the south-american parrots, we see that other family members and friends within the flock preen each other. In my own flock I observed the amazons preening several other birds, and also feeding them. My timneh grey is a wild-caught 40-something male bird, that really doesn't like to be touched. I come across many African Greys that are cuddled and hand-fed, that have many problems, among them plucking and agressiveness.
Of course, you can train your bird in accepting a scratch on the head. And if Fernando, my timneh, really wants to be scratched, I will train him to get over his fear. But the question is: does he really want?