DayosMom

Hi Friends, I thought I'd come by to say "HI" to the veteran members, and "Welcome" to the new members. I think of you all often. Things have sure changed around here. It's all different from the last time I was here. I had to study it a little bit to get my bearings as to where is what. I have to say, "I like it." Good Job! (as we tell Dayo) Good job!! A lot has happened since I was last here. I lost my job last July 2009. Still looking...UGH! In Jan of this year, our son and family hit a truck that had run a red light. (pickup truck) The Durango was a total loss, but the family was all in tact. That's the important stuff!! We had another granddaughter in Nov of 2009. In Feb 2010 she ended up in the ICU because of a bad virus that went around last winter. She had all kinds of tubes & wires running everywhere. She was so young. She is fine now. Growing like a weed. In April 2010, I wasn't watching where I was going, and fell into our pool. (LMHO ) Let me tell you how heavy terrycloth bathrobes are when they are wet!!! I couldn't hardly get out of the pool. AND I broke my ankle. Only I didn't go get it checked for week. I went to work as usual, all the while on a broken ankle. 3 days after I learned it was broken, I was in surgery getting the thing screwed back together. Then another 6 weeks of healing. It's difficult draging around that boot on your foot for a few weeks. It does get heavy after a while. I'm all healed now, and no problems so far. In May 2010, the son who had the car accident earlier this year got his parked car hit in front of his house. No one was in his car, and no one was hurt. But it was another loss for them. Car #2. (you can replace a car) In May our older son came to visit us Memorial Day weekend. We were excited. The first night they were here, his Lincoln LS was stolen out of our driveway. That was a mess. The kids left that night. We had 3 weeks of sightings of the car, drug dealers, identity stealer's, etc. The car was finally abandoned in an apartment complex. It was recovered with very little damage. The girls car seats were even in the trunk. That was a surprise. It took a while to recover from that ordeal. :eek: In August, our 14 year old grandson broke his collar bone playing football. It was the very first practice of the season. Needless to say, he sits out the whole season now. Poor guy! He is disappointed. Though I'm not working, and we are short money every month, I have to say, I'm a blessed mom/person. I get to do the things I couldn't do when I was working. I spend time looking for work every morning, filling out papers, answering the phone. (UGH) But in the afternoon I can go to my grandchildren school & help out, or be able to help out my son when they get stranded on the road, (flat tire) I get to cook dinner every night (if I want to) for my husband. I bake cookies for him, and most of all, I spend a lot more time with myour Dayo. We have really gotten close. I see our Conjure picking up new words, wanting to have human interaction, and be a part of our "flock." But Dayo.....he loves having us here all day. Dan works from home now, so we are together a lot of the time. I do my thing, and he works from home. It's great, after 6 years of his commuting 200 miles each week. So, though we have some serious issues going on in our lives,(who doesn't now days) it could always be worse. I try to look at things from a distance so I don't get too caught up in the moment of problems, struggling, or just plain life. I just take one day at a time. I just worry about today! Parting thought: Live Life, Laugh Often; Love Much!! We are never promised tomorrow!! Lots of love to you all. I'll be back soon!!! Kim (& Dayo too)

All your posts made me laugh. Thanks. My favorite: Dayo - 6 Dan & Kim - 0 {Feel-good-0002006E}

{Feel-good-0002006E} Oh my goodness :lol: Dayo just fell into the trash can. What did he say!! "WHOOPS!" {Feel-good-0002006E} Can't stop laughing.

Hahahaha...........Yes, he says he'll vacuum for me. I laughed out loud at your post. Thanks!

We have the same experiences. I feel sorry for them. Dayo is so funny. Those people really miss out. It does take a special person to appreciate the birds though. Every day at lunchtime I would go out to the picnic tables for the employees and watch all the Blue Jays play and care for their young. Even they are so comical. The other employees out there would appear annoied at them. I couldn't help but feel sorry for the people. Birds do understand us in their own way. Greys are the best companion because they appear to communicate with us. Sometimes I think they are. Well, Dayo wants my attention, so he has put himself right in front of my monitor. I had to laugh at him. When I looked down, he was looking right at me with his eyes as if to say, "Can you see me now!" Gotta love these Greys. We understand, that's really all that matters. Not what other people think.

Dayo keeps me laughing. Today, he keeps me on task. 1. Wash the clothes......... 2. Let's Vacuum! 3. I'll vacuum, OK? 4. He dropped a nut he was eating on the clean floor and said: "Gosh Dang IT." "Dang It!" As if he was disgusted with himself. I laugh 2 times. He's too funny!

Ooooooh Dan is just not right! But you all already know this. Once in a while I do get it. But I (unlike Dan) see it coming and can usually deflect the "love bite." Dan is convinced Dayo bites him just for the sake of biting. Don't let Dan fool you. (he loves it :lol: ) Yesterday Dayo was a "bugger." When we brought him in from outside, he got ornery! Maybe it was too much fresh air. :lol: He does have his mischievous moments too. Thankfully, not as often as his cuddly times. Don't let Dan fool you. When he comes home on Fridays, Dayo can't get enough of him. It's really cute. Dayo misses Dan a lot during the week. When we talk on the phone during the week, I put the phone on speaker. Dayo rubs his head on the phone, says "whistle" and makes kisses noises. So I think Dan is just full of hot air...........{Feel-good-0002006E}<br><br>Post edited by: DayosMom, at: 2009/08/09 20:19

We all come here to have an exchange of thoughts, experience, and support. We have all that here and more. I found what "wildiesel" had to say interesting in how he feels, & deals with his abused bird. It's a real challenge to take on such a heartbreaking experience for a bird of any breed. We all deal with things in a unique and different way than the person next to us would. It's a sharing of the minds here. And expertise/experience. I can say also for Dave, he is "very" experienced in his devotion to the African Grey breed. He has more knowledge by experience than all of us here put together. One could say his biggest sin is his "passion" for the breed. I believe everyone here wants the best for their Grey. What's good for my Dayo, might not be what's good for the neighbor's Grey. Each bird, each experience, each relationship is uniquely different & special. That's what makes our place here so interesting. The diversity. We should share our experiences with each other! Learn from the experience & experiences of others. I thank each one of you for your posts here. Each post adds to the decision making ability we each have. Knowledge is Power. Everyone here wants the very best for their Grey. I truly believe that.<br><br>Post edited by: DayosMom, at: 2009/08/09 15:14

Awwww, what a sweet Grey. Isn't it amazing how they can interact with us. I love his "red butt." LOL He's a character. Is that a roll of toilet paper hanging on his cage door?? What a great idea. If it is, I'm going to try it for Dayo. Let me know, and give Toby hugggggs from DayosMom<br><br>Post edited by: DayosMom, at: 2009/08/09 15:54

I redirect Dayo's attention too. I don't encourage him to continue. I think he has no other way to show his deep feelings, than to share his food with me. That's a tender, endearing, natural behaviour birds do with their young and loved mate. It does mean something special to them. Not all Grey's will do this. So those that do, share something special with their "Human Grey". :-)<br><br>Post edited by: DayosMom, at: 2009/07/26 22:14

I remember the first time Dayo "gurged" for me. I felt like you did. It's a very special bond you have with Whisper. Congratulations. Isn't it neat? Dayo also makes a "baby breath" sound for me. It's a sound he only does for me. Does Whisper do this also? (so precious)

Yes, Yes he does!

"Dayo is so brilliant.(Yes he is!) Learning those words all by himself." (Yes, he did!)(dave007) "shame on you Dan and don't blame it on Kim (Thank You Judy!)and never the grandkids!" (judygram) I just had to laugh out loud when I read these replies. Can't pull anything over on you....huh! Actually, Dayo did learn these 2 words from a family member, but it was not I, or Dan. We have grounded this family member from saying these words (or any other rainbow words)in our home. People just don't think before they engage their mouth. Whenever these 2 words slip out of Dayo, I always say in a loving tone, "Dayo, no, no. Those are bad words." He always turns his head sideways, and looks at me with both eyes. Then I pick him up, and we hug. He understands.

Dear Friends, This experience while I was in the hospital, just broke my heart. I wanted to RUN home, so I could comfort Dayo. As I know so well, that is what he so badly needed. I will offer him my hand when he gets scared, and he always accepts. Then - as I draw him close to my heart, I cradle his wings in a gentle touch of reassurance. He will step onto my chest, and I cradle him close to my heart speaking soft words of encouragement to him until he is calm again. This whole event takes seconds, and then we kiss, and he's up on my shoulder ready for the next adventure with "mommy." With me gone, he didn't receive this comfort. And so, he withdrew into the safe place inside himself. Since I have been home, he is doing so much better. Though not there yet, he is improving by the minute. He constantly seeks the reassurance of my cradles, which I give to him freely. Accidents happen when we LEAST expect them to. That's why they are called accidents. Dan is still heartbroken over this experience. I'm divided in offering comfort to each. We will ALL be OK in time. Soon this will all be a faint memory, but one we will not soon forget. Thank you for your comfort, dear Friends. Kim {Love-000200BF}

My Dear Friends, Thank you so much for your prayers, and your genuine concern over my recent encounters with an encapsulated endoscopy. I have read each and every one of your posts, I am humbled by the power of prayers once again. I thank you so much. May The wind always be at your back. God Bless, Kim (Dayo's mommy)