I want to try and get the best out of Silver, it's slow going... he's not potty trained yet, I was waiting for him to be really comfortable around me which he is now after 2 months. Starting potty training this week, I'll be really happy if I can conquer this at least! If Alfie hates his back being touched a good tip I learned somewhere on the internet is that while you are petting him slowly move your other hand towards his wings, each time rub his wings more and more until it doesn't bother him at all. Don't pet him without rubbing his wings. He'll learn that he doesn't get head scratches unless he allows his wings rubbed too and will eventually accept it. Hope that helps.