chezron Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I am getting divorced. Brutus loves us both, but I am his favorite. I am keeping the parrots. What will happen once he no longer sees my husband? Will he be sad? I really hate to do this to Brutus. There will be no visitation since he is moving across the country. I know Brutus loves it when we are all together talking, and he will not have that anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingy Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 First off I am sorry. No matter the circumstances divorce is hard. Please give yourself the time and permission to grieve. Brutis will probably think that your husband has gone to work for a long time. He may call and watch for him or even look through the house but if you keep to your normal routine Bruits will adapt. Has your soon to be ex ever gone away while you stayed home? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timbersmom Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I am sorry to hear this too. As Wingy said, divorce is never easy for all involved. I don't have experience with this exactly, but when my son (and one of Timber's favorites) went away to college it didn't seem to have a big effect on Timber. When Dakota comes home, Timber acts just like he always did toward him. I'm sure he wondered where Dakota was, but it didn't affect his health or behavior. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chezron Posted August 3, 2013 Author Share Posted August 3, 2013 Soon-to-be ex is often not home as he is pilot and gone for 1-2 weeks at a time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingy Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Than Brutus will probably not be phased any more than he normally would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvparrots Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I believe if you keep the rest of Brutus' schedule normal and interact and talk to Brutus as always, all will be fine. Things change all the time, just be calm and don't over react. If you react normally so will Brutus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
judygram Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 The others have all given good advice, keep things as normal as possible and Brutus will do fine, it is probably best he doesn't see him in the future as it will only send the wrong message that he is returning to the home. Sorry about the divorce but it seems to be a lot of that going around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kins2321@yahoo.com Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 I suspect Brutus will do just fine! Sorry about the divorce. I can relate. As your soon to be ex, was never a favorite, I'm sure Brutus will be fine. Don't make it a big deal. ( of course it is for you!) Nancy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Talon Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Sorry also. I got divorced almost 6 years ago. Talon really liked my ex and my oldest son. They both stayed behind and the rest of us moved into a new house. She seemed fine with it all. She had me all to herself, no other birds except parakeets at the time. They do adapt very well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danmcq Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I'm with the others. Brutus will be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katana600 Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 It is sweet for you to be thinking of Brutus' wellbeing and happiness amidst big changes in your life. I am sorry for your loss and what you are going through as well. I believe that our own emotions are picked up by our greys particularly and Brutus will fare well as long as you are taking care of yourself, not allowing yourself to be isolated. Since he likes the house to be active, it may be a good time to catch up with extended family and have visits from friends. It will give you something fun and positive and will be good for Brutus too. Gilbert has had a rough start and he has weathered changes in our life really well as far as our traveling and being separated for months at a time. I am glad since you spend so much time with Brutus and he loves you that you will have him in your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chezron Posted August 8, 2013 Author Share Posted August 8, 2013 Thanks for the support you guys! It is amazing how many kind friends (that I didn't know I had) have appeared since this all came down. I hope to get through this and i know it will take awhile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kins2321@yahoo.com Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 We are all here to support you! NOT just you and your bird, but how YOU are doing! Nancy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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