Timbersmom Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 As I've mentioned in other posts, Timber and I had a major bump in our relationship. His nails had gotten long enough to impede his movement, and I took him to the vet for a trim and a check-up. That was the Saturday after Christmas. Until today, he has wanted nothing to do with me. Didn't want to "go" like he usually does, didn't want me touching him etc. In fact, when I would ask if he wanted to go (our version of step up) he would go straight in the cage. Monday night, he finally stretched his head toward me for a scratch. After a couple nights of that, he finally stepped up and went in the living room with me tonight. After that, we sat down and had our old cuddle time, just like before. What a relief! I didn't think his behavior was permanent, but I was worried... I guess the nail clipping really traumatized him since he had to be toweled. Whew. Hopefully, we are good for another six months! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsjustnikki Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Glad to hear Timber is not "mad" at you any more. Tango does the same thing to me any time we have to do something he doesn't like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray P Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 OH how they do like to make us suffer, and than they forgive us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danmcq Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Thats good news. They sure do keep an attitude when they believe we wronged them in some way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greywings Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Blessed forgiveness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timbersmom Posted January 10, 2013 Author Share Posted January 10, 2013 It is good to know that his behavior is "normal" at any rate! Just like with my kids, I think it hurts me more than it hurts them... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
birdhouse Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Glad to hear all is forgiven. If it helps any, after a while, you'll probably get pretty good at judging the sentence for most real or imagined crimes. Having spent a greyt deal of time in the dog house by now, I've learned this lesson (too) well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katana600 Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Oh the dance of the cold shoulder and forgiveness. I am so glad Timber has relaxed and let you back in his good graces. We have gone through this many times without really knowing what set Gilbert off and it is usually a matter of waiting for him to signal that he is back to feeling safe and ready to try again. Gilbert also came to me last night and sat on my hand for a while and talked to me while I was holding him. I have had a really long wait this time and will take it as it comes too. Great that you and Timber are on the same team again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kins2321@yahoo.com Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 LOL! They are too much! They know how much we hate the " cold shoulder!" Its amazing how they know what buttons to push. Nancy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chezron Posted January 13, 2013 Share Posted January 13, 2013 I know you must have been upset by being shunned. Glad to hear you guys are on track again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timbersmom Posted January 13, 2013 Author Share Posted January 13, 2013 Yes, it is hurtful. And there is the fear that you have undone all the progress made. He still isn't 100% back to where we were, but improving daily. It takes so long to build that trust, then you feel like you have blown it. Hearing that others have birds that react the same way is reassuring, thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kins2321@yahoo.com Posted January 14, 2013 Share Posted January 14, 2013 Timbermom... there is also a difference in " being mad at you". as Timber is, as " not trusting you again!" The trust is there, will NOT go away. Timber will not always be happy with life events. You can only say " I love you and understand you are not happy right now." May take him a few days to forgive you, but the trust level will not change. I go thru that all the time with Sophie. When she gets her nails trimmed, she is mad at me. She continues to trust me, but she needs her space to forgive me As she gets older, she cares for herself quite well. If she requires nothing, trimmer does nothing. More and more, he has to do nothing. A quick car ride for Sophie, that she enjoys. Nancy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timbersmom Posted January 14, 2013 Author Share Posted January 14, 2013 I guess I just haven't had him long enough to be up to speed. He's been mad before, like when I won't let him get on the floor, but he took this to a whole new level. Thankfully, he is acting much like his old self now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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