Absent, but thinking of you all

[Acappella]

Hi all. I wanted to explain why I haven't been around lately. My dad and I share a house, and about 3 months ago he had a bad heart attack. They found out the blockages to his heart were, unfortunately, in a spot that couldn't be fixed with a stint. Because he also has very severe COPD (thank-you cigarettes), they can't put him on a ventilator to do bypass surgery because they'd never get him off the machine. So he's been home, getting palliative and respite care here. About two weeks ago he had a fall in the bathroom. Didn't break anything amazingly, (he also has bad osteoporosis) but it shook him up pretty bad. It's taken two weeks in hospital to get him back up on his feet. I'm hoping he'll be home by the end of the week. The hospital is an 1/2 hour drive away (we live in a rural area), and most days I have to first drive north 15 minutes, pick up dad's girlfriend, then drive 45 minutes to the hospital, then 45 minutes taking her home, then I get home. So there's not been much time surfing the forums. I miss you all, and once dad's home and all the home-care is in place, I'm hoping I'll have some time to sit in the backyard and surf in peace. Dorian has picked up a new phrase during all this. "Gotta go see dad"

Marguerite

[judygram]

You do not need to explain why you have been absent as we all have been at one time or another as life has a way of interfering with our best laid plans but your father comes first and if you have no time for us then so be it.

I am sorry to hear your dad is ill but we do what we have to and you are a good daughter to take such good care of him as it sounds like he needs you right now. Give him my best wishes for a speedy recovery and "gotta go see dad".

[Luvparrots]

You have been missed Marguerite and a big hug and prayer for your dad's quick return home. Do what needs to be done for your dad and yourself right now, we'll still be here, you betcha!

[katana600]

You sure have your hands full. When all the driving, visiting and caring are taken care of, Dorian needs a piece of your day too. When your dad comes home again, you will have plenty of time to catch up on the forum. Just know we are all sending our love and caring your way while you have trials in your life. Until then, often in my head on a long stressful day, I hear a beautiful voice singing "just breathe" and sometimes that is all that you need to be doing. Take time for a rest any time you can find a few minutes. I am sure sorry your dad is having a rough go and I am sure you are a bright spot in his life. See you around soon. Love and hugs to you, Dee