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Falconeer

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HELLO ALL,

 

SORRY FOR THE CAPS. BUT I AM REALLY DEPRESSED ABOUT MY BIRD.

 

HE USED TO SCREAM WHEN HE SAW ME COMMING CLOSE FOR FOOD. WHENEVER I GO NEAR HIM, HE SCREAMS AND WHEN I AM TOO CLOSE, HE JUST JUMPS OFF AND RUNS AROUND THE ROOM.

 

SO, I DECIDED TO PUT THE FOOD AWAY FROM HIS PERCH AND WAIT TILL HE GOT THERE SO I CAN GO SERVICE HIS PERCH AND PLACE FOOD AS WELL.

 

NOW I DUNNO HOW TO TAME HIM OR CALM HIM DOWN. IT'S BEEN 5 MONTHS NOW.

 

PLESAE HELP.

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Hi Falconeer,

 

I was reading your post from 3/07 when you first brought your Grey Home.

 

It seemed in that thread, that you were making progress in gaining his trust, with him even following you around the house and coming to your bedroom.

 

Now, 4 Months later, it sounds like all that progress has changed.

 

Has anything happened that you can think back to that he started showing a big change in his attitude towards you?

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HERE IS WHAT I KNOW...

 

I bought him at about 8 months of age. he was better then... just screaming but would let me feed him (I tried this twice).

Then I left the country for 2 months (not my choice) when I came back, he was just a screamer. I let him oout of his cage, andgot him an open perch.

 

He was very happy. But now, growls whenever I am near and worst of all, just jumps off the perch.

 

PLEASE HELP!

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Well, that fills in the 4 month time gap.

 

During the 2 months you were gone, do you feel comfortable that he was taken care of by someone that is familiar with Greys?

 

It seems you just started getting to know each other and then had to leave. This stopped that "Bonding" and perhaps now has placed a feeling of abandonment and distrust.

 

Hopefully, with time, patience and consistency in your daily scheduled time with him, it will start the bonding process that never fully came to fruition.

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THERE IS GOOD NEWS HOWEVER,

 

WHEN I TURN DOWN THE LIGHTS, HE WOULD START TALKING AND MAKING SWEET SOUNDS... THIS IS ONLY WHEN I AM IN THE HOUSE, BUT NOT VISIBLE.

 

HOW DO I FEED HIM THOUGH? EACH THIRD DAY, I HAVE TO REFILL HIS STUFF... NOW, FOR TWO DAYS, HE GETS CLOSE, ON THE THIRD DAY IT SEEMS I SCARED THE POO OUT OF HIM AND WE HAVE TO START ALL OVER WITH THE GROWLING AND ALL. WHEN I GO NEAR HIM HE WOULD JUMP AND THAT'S IT.

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Well, being completely out in the open, with no place to call home to feel safe in may be a big part of the problem.

 

If you have a Cage, you should keep him in it, which would be his home and place of safety.

 

To gain his trust, you will need to get him into a small room that you can at least get closer to him and start making him understand your not going to hurt him.

 

You also need to start out with getting him on to your hand..carefully so he knows that it is safe and no harm will befall him.

 

This is not going to be a 2 or 3 day fix. It is going to take time, to get the trust and relationship going.

 

I am certain others with first hand experience in your circumstance will chime in here pretty soon.

 

Just hang in there, it will be worth it :-)

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I had a similar experience with a Peach Front Conure I purchased from a breeder that was completely wild.

 

After a year of trying to get him to even trust my hand next to his cage, I started searching for solutions again, which the books and posts on the web did not reveal a solution that worked for "Jake".

 

I finally found this website and followed exactly what it promulgated and had him stepping up the same day..

 

http://www.thebirdwhisperer.com/

 

I hope this helps in your situation!!<br><br>Post edited by: danmcq, at: 2007/07/15 16:53

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I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with your grey, but this can be fixed but it will take time and a lot of patience. You have not bonded with this bird and until you do he has the upper hand here. I think you should check out the website Danmcq included in his post sounds like it may have the information you need to turn things around for you and your grey.

I guess the 2 month abscence couldn't be helped but it did a lot of damage in that since bonding hadn't taken place yet, you went away and he thinks you will go away again. Please don't give up on this lovely bird, I know you can bond and love this bird if you will just take your time and make it happen.

Please check out the website Dan and I mentioned, I think it may help you a lot better than we can.:)

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