Thanks for the replies. Since i was last on here he has gone off john and taken a liking to my father in law in a big way. I am getting soooo jelouse. I am confused he only likes one person at a time. I am quite concerned as he dosnt want to come out anymore. I am in contact with a local behaviourist so hope to get somewhere soon. I have also since got a baby timneh which he seems interested in but still wont come out to see him.