Dually

I recently aquired an African Grey. I was told she had been DNA sexed as a female. I know I was taking a chance that she would bond with me, her being female and me being female as well. Also, she was raised by a male and her second owner was a male. I spent several days emailing back and forth asking questions about her before I went to meet her. When I did finally go see her to see if we would get along, she was wonderful! She came right to me from her owner's hand, stayed with me, let me play with her etc. When I got her home and she realized there where men in the household, my husband and 2 sons, she completely disregarded me and will only let my husband and sons pet her. She's even drawn blood on me lately when I try to get her to step up on my arm. I've had large birds before. I owned a blue and gold macaw for 18yrs until I lost him to a house fire 3 yrs ago. I was able to get him out of the house but the smoke had already done its damage and I lost him to pnemonia. Anyway, is there anything I can do to get this bird to accept me as well as she does the guys? It's just a shock at the difference in how she acted when I went to see her and how she is now. HELP!