Well, I thought I might get some actual advise but instead most of what I read is "oh whoa is me" and "there must be a reason - I'm doing something wrong" etc. I'm sorry you think I just went away for 3 days - I am not able to check blogs/forums every day and respond. Thanks to some of you who "defended" me - Oh well...
P.S. My name is Pam and the grey's name is Sid (Sidney) - I can't seem to change me profile to correct.