Thanks for your responses.
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I think the big problem is she doesn't know anything about birds, just pigeons you see on the street. My family has always had birds. Including my aunts, grandparents. I think its a South Florida thing. My wife's family is from the San Francisco bay area, and they never had birds. I'm not saying that Bay area people don't have birds, but I think the weather in South Florida makes it easier to have birds for more people because they can be outside more.
Some of her excuses are that we don't have time. But yet we sit and watch TV for 1 - 3 hours a night after our kids go to sleep. She says money also, but I just got an unexpected bonus at work yesterday which would cover the Grey and cage (it's funny how things work out like that). She also says we don't have room in the living room for the cage, but that won't be a problem at all. We do have the room. I think she just doesn't want a cage in the living room. She never had a nice parrot cage in her house. I think it will look very nice.
I tell her she won't have to do anything for the Grey. I wish she would just accept cause it's putting a strain on everything.
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Thanks.