What I mean is, friends come over and want to instantly pet my Oscar. He doent know these new faces or has limited contact with them and they approch him with there big hand over him and he gets nervouse. Which I totaly understand, but my guests thinks its odd. I explain to the that how would you feel if everytime you were aproched with a huge hand over your head? It took him at least a month before he trusted me... i think i need to let guests know to only chat with him no petting???