If you truly care, you will rearrange your life for them. You have to love them unconditionally!! If you can do that, it will translate into loving our fellow brothers and sisters and that feels good. I said earlier today that spending 6k to get her life moving was the cheapest part of the deal. You may have money, but do you have time and the ability to change? Congrats to those who do because I feel like we have all gone through boot camp together. I was in the Armed Forces as a kid and I never dealt with something so brutal, but so rewarding until now!